noun. the state or situation of being alone. Since when did being alone turn into such an undesirable thing? Our souls are constantly in search for someone or something to connect with. We all crave compatibility. We want somebody we share similar interests, likes, dislikes, goals, and an overall outlook on life with. We spend so much time looking for something to fall in love with, we forget to fall in love with ourselves. Solitude will always be more kind to you than surrounding yourself with circumstantial people.
It’s definitely a change going from being with somebody to being alone. Transitioning from falling asleep every night with the comfort of another person’s warmth, to sleeping alone. Preparing a nice meal, having somebody to bask in the savory smells that linger throughout the house with, to eating alone. It’s the normal day-to-day affairs that remind us of our loneliness. Sometimes, we need to take a minute and think. Is this so bad? Yes, I’m experiencing life by myself, but what’s so bad about that? One day I’m going to be a wife and a mom, pursuing my career and making sure my family is comfortable and loved, I won’t even remember what it’s like to be alone. Enjoy having a bed and space to yourself where you can sit and figure out who you are, and who you want to be. Use this time of loneliness to surround yourself in your personal space, and dive into your thoughts. Feel and accept all of your emotions. Confront your biggest desires, fears, strengths, weaknesses. What is it you long for? Why have you ever allowed yourself to settle for less than what keeps you up at night? How will you get past this point in your life? Is what you’re doing today getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow? With silence and time, the universe will meet you at your higher self and return to you all of the patience, love, and gratitude you’ve put out into the world. Until you get comfortable with being by yourself, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or fear of loneliness.
I taste loneliness like it is the sweetest wine to ever graze my tongue.
The first step towards moving on, is letting go. Let go of those people who made you feel as if you couldn’t be whole without them. It’s better to be alone and happy than to be with someone who’s company makes you feel unfulfilled. Acceptance is key. Accept the fact that not everybody is going to have the same heart as you. Just because the last person let you down, doesn’t mean the next person will. We just have to learn who is worth the heartache. Until then, choose who you allow to affect your energy wisely.
Make your alone feel so good, you’ll only want them if they’re as soulful as your solitude. Fall in love with your loneliness. Sink into it like a warm bath. Let it wash away any and every doubt or fear to flood your mind. Let it fill your pores with self-love, acceptance, and contentment. Never give anybody the power to “make” you happy. The most they could do is be a contributing factor to the happiness you’ve found within yourself. The only person who can make or break you, is you. In the midst of your loneliness, you will figure yourself out. What kind of light you bring to this world, where you find purpose in your life, and how you wish to touch the people around you. Create a world within yourself of clarity and understanding. Once you do this, when the right person comes along you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself.
“Without great solitude, no serious work is possible.” -Picasso
